Has this ever happened to you?

You meet a great woman. You fall in love, and she becomes the center of your world.

She is everything to you.

After all, a great relationship can inspire and elevate our lives. It can be a profound source of fulfillment.

She may even enjoy this position, at first.

However, there is a problem that arises out of this situation.

We often put too much responsibility on her. Responsibility for our validation, happiness, and fulfillment.

She becomes the Sun that our lives revolve around. Without her light to nourish our lives, life in our solar system will perish.

We make it her job to keep our world turning.

This is too much.

She can’t be your source.

It makes you dependent on her, placing you in a needy, reactive state.

No woman wants this.

It will be a drain on her and your relationship.

She doesn’t want to be your mother.

She loves you and will pick up some of the slack… for now. But don’t think she wants to.

Your relationship is a dance.

As a man, you need to be able to stand on your own two feet.

If you take the lead, it will be better for both of you.