There are two forms of death when it comes to relationships.

we’ll come back to that in a minute… 

We meet someone, fall in love, and hope the relationship lasts forever.

It’s going to be different this time. This is going to last.

Well, nothing does.

Everything changes.

But that’s a good thing.

Stagnation is decay.

We grow attached to this person. Our identities become enmeshed. We LOVE them!

Yes. I get it.

Okay, so here it is: You want your relationship to die-off periodically. That is how it becomes something greater than it is currently.

It’s a cyclical thing.

Just like the seasons. Autumn comes. Then winter.

The question is, will you both be together come spring?

I know I said there are two forms of relationship deaths. Perhaps it’s more accurate to say that there are two ways to relate to and work with the inevitability of change.

If you know what you’re doing, you can embrace this seasonality of love.

You can both move with this cycle and be reborn into a new version of your relationship.

Many don’t know what they are doing, or even that there are these cycles. Their relationships often don’t make it through the winter.

The way of nature is the way of cycles.

The ebb and flow of things.

One way embraces change. The other way grasps and fights and struggles.

It’s about understanding what is happening and flowing with forces bigger than yourself.

Have you learned how to flow with love’s seasons?