I have no moral qualms with pornography or masturbation.

There’s nothing inherently dirty or wrong about it.

Whatever.

The problem is that it’s so pleasurable and exciting and easy to obtain.

It’s our relationship with it.

Because of how we’re wired, we are extremely susceptible to addictive behaviors when it comes to sex.

This is where the problem lies.

You lose control.

Control of your time, energy, attention, and will.

Something has a hook in you. It steals your power.

Then comes the mental and emotional fallout.

Shame. Hiding. Preoccupation.

It consumes you. Keeping you from being your most productive and effective self.

And it’s not enough to just try to cut back or stop doing it.

What are you trying to cover up, replace, sooth, avoid, or distract from?

Let’s face it, this is a form of self-medication.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with self-medicating, mind you.

there’s a way to go about this that is more constructive… more on that next time.

But when it becomes a preoccupation that interferes with other aspects of life…

Uh oh.

What do you really want?

Is it a better career? A fit body? An awesome girlfriend?

Let’s go after that.

As you begin to see positive results—as you feel the optimism and positive momentum taking shape—you won’t feel as much of a need to self-medicate.

Not to say it’s going to be easy, but it will improve your ability to succeed.