Relationships go through cycles.

It can’t always be great.

That’s just not how people work.

Doesn’t mean there has to be major drama, but it can’t always be birds singing and sunshine.

Yet we resist.

Similar with our own feelings. We resist the ups and downs, seeking to smooth things over as much as possible.

When things get a bit rocky in a relationship, you have the opportunity to learn something about each other and yourself.

This is the time to stop and look in the mirror, asking yourself, “Where is this coming from? What is this really about?”

But, again, so many times we just try to smooth it over.

We seek to return to the status quo, keep the peace, make everything copasetic.

In doing so, we miss the opportunity to take our relationship to a deeper level.

So our relationship dies a little. It becomes more shallow. Wounded.

Over time, those little wounds can fester.

Then, one day, you wake up and you’re in a rotten relationship.

No one’s happy.

This is clearly not the way.

Obstacles are opportunities, not something to be avoided at all costs.