Does your life ever feel like a blur?
Like the days are just blending together?
We ask ourselves, “Where did the day go?!” Our precious time spilling away, constantly piling up like the sand in an hourglass.
Sure, there are some high points. Some peak moments that we remember.
But what about all that other time?
Some of my best days feel like two or three days packed into one. It’s like I’m getting bonus time, and it’s a sign that I did something right.
How can we be more intentional and in control of how we live all the moments that make up our days?
In his book High Performance Habits, Brendon Burchard writes about the importance of managing our transitions.
We make countless transitions throughout each day: Home to commute; commute to office; client calls to meetings; answering emails to mentoring; office to gym; car to our home and seeing our families…
If we don’t want everything in life to blur together like some kind of smudged portraiture of our exhausted, overtaxed lives, then we must become intentional about creating distinct boundaries between activities.
If we don’t, it’s too easy to carry over stress, tension, negativity, attitude, tone, posture—our overall vibe and how we are framing our experiences—from one context to the next.
This bleeding or blurring of the lines is part of the reason everything begins to feel like everything else.
It’s like eating off of a plate that you never rinse off. You’re going to get some strange flavors over time!
Think about this:
Do you want to bring the same energy from that annoying commute into that precious moment when you get to greet your wife and children after they haven’t seen you all day?
Burchard offers us an elegant and powerful technique for eliminating this bleed-over.
It’s called Release Tension, Set Intention.
In essence, it goes like this:
- Sit in an upright and relaxed position
- Scan through your body and start releasing tension by saying the word “release.” You can coordinate this with exhales to make it more effective.
- After a couple of minutes of releasing tension, shift into the intention phase of this practice
- Ask yourself questions about the situation you’re transitioning into. For example, if you’re in the driveway after commuting home from work, and you’re about to walk into the house to see your wife and child, you could ask, “What kind of husband and father do I want to be? How can I demonstrate that I love my family more than anything? How do I want them to feel when they interact with me?”
I love this method. It has real value. It’s so simple and elegant.
Anyone can do it, and its effects can be felt immediately.
The release phase of the exercise helps shift you out of a stressed, anxious, or otherwise agitated state.
The intention phase works wonders for getting perspective and queuing up mindfulness as we step into our next experience.
What do you think would change if you gave this a try for the next 48 hours?