You’ve been together awhile now.

But something has changed.

She’s not as warm and loving as she once was. She seems preoccupied.

You ask her, “What’s wrong?”

“Nothing,” she states tersely.

You have a bad feeling.

Listen to that. That’s your body telling you something’s up.

Because, your relationship could be in big trouble.

You have a few options here:

Believe her. Don’t do anything. Maybe she’s being honest, it could be nothing.

If it blows over, then it’s all good. Right?

Maybe. (we’ll come back to this in a minute)

You could double down and try to be really nice. Do all the things you think would usually make her happy.

Do extra housework. Buy her things. Be really sweet.

Smother the Hell out of her.

Good luck, brother.

If she doesn’t stab you to death, she is surely plotting her escape even sooner, now.

I know it may seem counter-intuitive, but women are repelled by this behavior. It looks pathetic and smells like desperation to them.

Not a big turn-on for a woman who is already not feeling it (for you right now, that is).


Shift the focus off of her and what she wants and what she’s feeling about you.

Turn all that energy around and point it back at yourself.

Roll up your sleeves, because it’s time to get to work.

Something about you and the relationship isn’t doing it for her.

The magic is gone.

It could be that your masculine energy has softened a bit too much. It happens when we’re in relationships for awhile.

It could be that you’ve gotten too comfortable and are no longer leading and driving towards greater things.

I get it. You’re happy and content. You’ve got this great woman. Life is good.

Or, God-save-you, you’ve turned her into your mommy. Deferring to her to make all the decisions. Complaining to her about your problems.

You must figure out what has happened here.

More importantly, you need to take a look at what kind of man you are being.

This may be the opposite of what you want to do, but you must give her some space.

Disengage for a bit and focus on yourself.

Go spend some time outdoors. Try to take an objective look at the situation.

What has changed?

Were you a different man when she met you? How have things changed?

Are you carrying and conducting yourself like a man?

Or a man-child?

You could be asking too much of her and the relationship without bringing enough. Treating her like an emotional ATM without putting any money in the bank.

Always needing something from her.

That could be approval, affection, attention…

Whatever it is, you need to call in your energy. Re-center.

Your power should come from deep within. Always seeking validation outside of yourself makes you weak and unstable.

This is deep stuff. It can’t be figured out in a day.

But you can begin to turn things around right away by looking within for energy (not her).

And even if you wait and things seem to blow over, you need to do this anyway.

If you don’t, it will eventually undermine the strength of your relationship.