What if you had a key that unlocked enormous quantities of possibilities in every area of your life?
Revealing new angles on problems or situations that you’d never thought of?
More on that in a moment.
We are constantly being shaped by the choices we make, now and in the past. Those choices are based on myriad factors. Internal and external.
In any given moment, we have a massive range of options (objectively speaking), but only a limited number of those options are likely to be chosen in our reality.
We walk down the street and notice certain people, objects, and conversations. Someone else walking next to us notices an entirely different set of phenomena.
Same street, totally different experiences.
We are all walking around in differing realities. The ground matrix for our individual realities is made up of our beliefs, assumptions, habits (of thinking, feeling, perception), biases, desires, delusions, etc.
These aspects of our inner world shape what we are highly likely to do in any moment.
How do we access these unseen options and opportunities that exist all around us, and how do we gain access to new choices so we can create new outcomes?
What is the cure to this reality blindness?
As I mentioned in my example earlier, we are walking around in a world full of reality creators. Everyone adds their own little twist to solving problems in their lives.
But we don’t think like they do, so how do we see things through their eyes?
By asking other people great questions.
If we can begin to approach more of the people in our lives with a sense of curiosity and openness, we can find out not just what they know, but how they think.
If we can slow down a little, show some care and respect for what other’s have to offer (beyond just selling us our coffee or ringing up our groceries), then we suddenly gain access to the most valuable asset in the world—human intelligence.
The right questions, asked with the right attitude, don’t just reveal interesting and valuable information to us, they also add value to the recipient by encouraging them to think about something in a new way.
This requires us to set aside the need to tell others what we think. Most people don’t care all that much anyway, so save your breath. The real opportunity is in the listening.
Flip the focus from the continuous, habitual reaffirmation of your identity through the constant defense and promotion of your own ideas, beliefs, and preferences.
Instead, ask yourself, “What is the best, most interesting question I can ask this person?”
In this way, we then expand our reality and what is possible.